6 Ways to Remove Negativity from your life

Negativity is all around us, It’s present in our relationships, within ourselves, and our environment. So trying to maintain a healthy, positive attitude isn’t always easy. We may start the day with good intentions, but negativity easily sneaks its way in, mentally draining us. Sometimes it’s a negative person in our lives doing what they always do, traffic, or bad habits. There’s no way to remove all negativity from our lives because some things are out of our control. Happiness isn’t picture-perfect, and things will go wrong sometimes. But by taking the time to observe what’s creating negativity in our lives, we can take steps to remove it and be on our way to a happier, positive life. Here are some sources of negativity, as well as how to remove them from your life.

Setting Healthy Boundaries and Saying no

If you consider yourself a yes person, then saying yes to situations you’re not comfortable with because you feel obligated, is probably a constant source of negativity.  You find yourself loaning money to people who’ll never pay you back, taking on extra work, or letting someone borrow something even though the person is careless and will most likely ruin it. You might feel like you’re doing the right thing, or you have to help. But setting boundaries and following them through is important for your well-being.  It’s easy to get caught up in trying to be nice and hoping that others will like you more and will agree to things they don’t want to do. But by doing this, it makes it easier for people to take advantage of you.

So instead of blindly saying yes to everything, put your foot down and say no. Be sure to keep your response simple, be firm and direct, and try to be strong in your body language. Don’t over apologize, you’re not asking for permission to say no, but being true to yourself. And, removing the negativity from your life that comes with agreeing to every request.

Remove Negative self-thoughts and self-talk

We are all guilty of negative self-dialogue from time to time. Telling ourselves, we aren’t good enough or disliking a part of our bodies. As we tell ourselves these things, we start to believe them. And it can lower our self-esteem and self-worth. So remember to be kind to yourself and get in the habit of using uplifting self-dialogue. Remind yourself daily that you are strong, beautiful, talented, confident, and enough. Once you remove the negativity of negative self-talk brings, you’ll find that you’ll feel a lot happier and a much more positive person.

Understanding Social Media is just a Highlight reel

Social media has a part of our daily lives, and most of us can’t go a day without scrolling through our social media feeds. It’s important to remember when your scrolling that you’re only seeing a curated version of someone’s life. A collection of the best parts of someone’s life, making it seem like their life is perfect, and they’ve got it together. But, that isn’t true, most people don’t want to share their flaws, lows, or what they’re battling, with everyone on the internet. And the person behind the account most likely has some things they’re not sharing with the world. If you find you’re feeling discouraged or depressed by what you see in your social media feed. Then it’s time to unfollow or mute accounts that don’t have a positive impact on your life. Another way to lessen the negative impact of social media is to do a social media detox for a few days, weeks, or forever long you may need. For more tips on cutting back on social media, check out 7 Ways to Cut Back on Social Media Use.

Removing toxic people from your life

Being around toxic people can take a toll on your overall mental health, so if you have the choice to not associate with them, then it’s best to avoid them. Sometimes they’re people dear, like close friends, a partner you’re in a romantic relationship with, or family. If you find yourself being dragged down by their negativity, constantly taken advantage of, abused, guilt-tripped, or manipulated. You should take a close look at the relationship and determine if it’s worth the stress.

If it’s not, learn to say no and set boundaries to show them what behaviors you allow and don’t allow. If they don’t respect your boundaries and still treat you the same way. Then you should distance yourself, even if you still love them. It’s difficult to distance ourselves from people we care about, but necessary if we want to remove negativity and lessen its impact on our lives. Remember life is ever-changing, and some people are only meant to come into our lives to teach a lesson. So, don’t feel guilty but grateful for the experience and the positive memories and be open to new possibilities.

Complain less

No one enjoys being around someone who’s always complaining. If you find you have a bad habit of complaining about every little thing in your life, try and think of those time you around someone who was constantly complaining. When you look at it from that perspective, you imagine how other’s might feel being around you. Instead of complaining, practice gratitude, and look at the situation differently. We can’t control what goes right or what goes wrong in our lives, but we can choose to see the good in negative situations. And remove negativity from our lives.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

When we see someone who seems to have a perfect life, a skill we lack, or something we can’t afford. We wish we were that person and have jealous thoughts because we are only looking at the surface. We don’t know that person’s past, the work it took to achieve their success or the issues they might be facing. Comparing ourselves to others is a never-ending cycle of negativity that you don’t want to get sucked into. Don’t forget your path is different from some else’s, and reframe from comparing yourself to other people. Instead, challenge yourself. No one is perfect. Each of us has areas in our lives where we could improve.

Negativity is a never-ending cycle, but there is something we can do about it. It’s not easy and takes work and a lot of change. But by identifying then taking steps to remove it from your life. You’ll be able to decrease the negativity in your life and be on your toward leading a joyful, positive life. What are some ways you keep negativity out of your life?

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