Let’s be honest: sometimes I’m the flaky friend. Not because I don’t care, but because my brain and body don’t always cooperate with the calendar.

Maybe anxiety shows up the morning of. Maybe depression glues me to the couch. Maybe I just forgot because executive dysfunction is real. Whatever the reason, I’ve had to figure out how to be a good friend and honor my limits.

If you’ve ever felt like the “flaky one,” here are some ways to keep friendships strong without pretending you’re someone you’re not.